I tried uploading a pic but my computer wasn’t cooperating.
Oh well, I’ve been working hard on keeping my mind well fed. I read, I write, I watch videos and I talk to my kids about staying motivated. I remember hearing about motivational speaker Anthony Robbins and decided to watch a few videos on YouTube. I really like his style and have significantly improved my mood by just watching a few of these.
One of the main things he says in these videos is to get specific and ask life for exactly what you want and know why you are doing it. At times I find this difficult to do because it seems a whole lot easier to generalize and say, “I just want everything to be taken care of.” I realize now why vague requests like that aren’t usually effective. It’s because everyone’s view of “taken care of” is different. What we view as problems in America may be nothing compared to people in poorer countries.
If I lose my car insurance coverage that means absolutely nothing to a poor family who is losing a loved one due to illness in a location that doesn’t have the means to obtain necessary treatment.
I often try to keep things like that in mind whenever I feel like I have problems. Sometimes it helps but sometimes it doesn’t. I usually say that no one else’s problems are more important than yours. Even if you try to direct your thoughts elsewhere, when you are going through life’s dilemmas it can be distracting enough for you to lose that compassion or to worry about others.
So as I ponder upon Tony’s question about what I want and why, they are not easy questions to answer when you really sit down and think about them. You would think that the easy answer would be to have lots of money but that’s just a superficial request. Most people don’t realize that they honestly and truly DON’T WANT MONEY! They really want the things that money can buy.
When trying to come up with my wish list of wants I also take into consideration the fact that it really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks about my dreams. I mean, they’re my dreams, so if they’re silly to you that’s just fine and dandy. This may also be another problem for some people because there may be times that you don’t want to write something down that sounds unrealistic or too fantasy-like.
With that being said, I’m going to attempt to write some of my wants and why-I-wants here on my blog in order to help me practice not worrying about the what-other-people-think part. Maybe I can kinda condition myself to the point where I can freely write down my dreams without having any fears (if possible). I will also attempt not to put a monetary amount on my wishes because, if there’s anything I’ve learned, it’s that money isn’t the only way of obtaining things.
So what I want to have is the following:
- All of my bills to be paid on time every month (for obvious reasons)
- Always have a fridge full of healthy food (not just whatever was affordable, which is usually very unhealthy)
- Have a big enough house for me and my family (so we can live comfortably)
- Have my house fully furnished (ditto)
- Have a job that I love in which I can help others and feel fulfilled (one in which I can help others grow and I can grow as well)
- Have enough time to enjoy activities with my children (so I don’t miss their childhood and live with regrets later like so many other struggling parents)
- Be able to go on family trips several times a year, preferably at least once a month (to spend quality time with my family and build wonderful memories)
- Take college courses on everything I’ve ever wanted to learn about (because I am very inquisitive and love school)
- Be able to have our closets full of clothes, shoes and always have enough socks and underwear (so that there are never any toes coming out of socks or shoes again)
- Be able to get haircuts every month (for once just be able to do this as often as I’d like and not once every 6 months – the boys really hate this)
- Be able to have someone come and help clean the house (to free up my time for my family)
- Never miss a school game or ceremony (to show my support)
- Be able to help keep a smile on my mother’s face (I miss her so much)
- Be able to make my father proud (I wish we had a better relationship)
- To be a better friend (I’ve had some excellent friends in my life)
- Be able to clear up my mind and my schedule enough to give back to others (I want to be an inspiration)
Well I’m sure the list can go on and on if I let it but I’m going to try to focus on these things with all of my mind, body and spirit because I have faith that all of my dreams will come true. Through the tears, sorrow, agony, pain, frustration, ups and downs, I KNOW that they will come true because I am DEMANDING it from life and life must answer.
The ball is in your court now life…..please respond.